双语：关于爱情年轻的我们要知道的9件事

　　1. You’ll make mistakes

　　7. You don’t need to have a timeline

　　陷入爱情里是正常的

　　3. You can be single

　　也许当你回头看，会责备自己怎么会爱上一个明显是错的人，但这段过去依然带着浪漫的玫瑰色彩，你会很欣慰自己曾经尽力去体验。

　　你可以单身

　　永远不要因为恋爱而惩罚自己。此刻当你有所感觉，你需要让自己完全投入去感受这种情感。陷入爱河，幻想未来，也许还会让自己受伤。你会从所有这些时刻和情感中学会很多。

　　你遇到了一个错的人，也许你甚至知道他/她不适合你，但你就是陷入爱中无法自拔。这也是正常的。爱情是一种美好的感觉，只要你相信这是真的，和某人陷入爱中就永远不会错。

　　It’s important to be single so you can focus on your own life; when you do find that special someone, your relationship will be that much better because it will be special. You’ll be a well-rounded person, and you won’t have a history of hopping from relationship to relationship with no substance。

　　他们可以是好人，但对于你来说，依然是错的人。你应该和一个能让你自己最好一面显露出来的人在一起，他/她应该非常贴心，善于鼓励，和你非常相配。不要为了取悦别人而勉强和谁在一起。

　　不要总优先满足他人的需要

这都是可以接受的，因为你会从这些错误里学习，让你真正的爱情更加甜蜜。

　　And you should be! Too many young people think they always need to be in a relationship. If you have this mindset, then you’re more likely to date people who are bad for you just so you’ll be with someone. It’s ok to be single! No one is watching you and keeping track of how long you’re single versus how long you’re in a relationship。

　　It’s ok to make mistakes when you’re young – especially in love! Love isn’t a rational feeling, it’s something that makes you feel the highest of happiness during the good times, and the lowest of sadness during the bad times。

　　你没有必要制定时间表

　　你可以自私

　　It’s normal to be selfish when you’re young, because you need to figure out who you are and what you want from life. It’s acceptable to break up with someone over something that might seem a bit petty just because they don’t seem right for you – because they probably aren’t!

　　They can be kind and still be wrong — for you. You should be with someone who brings out the best in you, who is sweet and encouraging and compatible with you, not who you think you should be with to make anyone else happy。

　　Who doesn’t love love? It’s one of the best, purest emotions out there. This means, of course, that it has the most drama connected to it. Everyone worries about collecting a lot of relationship baggage while they’re young, but the truth is it’s going to happen regardless of how you try to avoid it。

　　有谁不喜欢爱情呢？这是一种最美好最纯洁的感情。当然，这也意味着它是最具有戏剧化的。每个人年轻的时候都担心自己会有很多感情上的麻烦，而事实是不管你多想努力避免，这种情况总会发生。

　　你会爱上错的人

　　与其试着避免犯错，不如看看这些关于爱情年轻的你应该知道的事。每个人都会有这样的经历，而我们最终会好起来，这样想就舒服多了。

　　而且你应该单身！很多年轻人认为他们需要恋爱，如果你有这种心态，你很有可能为了找个伴而和不合适的人约会。单哪个更长。

然后你开始规划你的人生。“我应该25岁时结婚这样我在30岁之前就可以生孩子了”之类的想法似乎比随遇而安更稳定。

　　6. Live and love in the moment

　　年轻的时候，你需要专注于自身，因为你需要探寻你是谁，你的职业生涯会怎样发展。你需要为这些事情而忙碌，包括在发展一段长期的关系之前先爱自己。

　　When you’re older and in a committed relationship or marriage, there will be times when you need to put your own wants on the back burner and

　　Never chastise yourself for falling in love. When you feel something in the moment, you need to let yourself feel that emotion completely. Fall in love, daydream about your future, and, as hard as it may be to do, let yourself get hurt. You’ll learn from all of these moments and all of these emotions。

　　年轻的时候自私是正常的，因为你需要发现你是谁，你想要从生活中得到什么。和某些人因为某些琐事分手只是因为他们似乎不适合你，这也是可以接受的，因为他们也许真的不适合你。

　　活在当下，爱在此刻

　　单身也是重要的，这样你就可以专注于自己的生活。当你真的找到那个特别的人时，你们的关系会更好，因为它会很特别。你会非常圆满，而且你不会留下一段毫无意义不断更换恋爱对象的历史。

　　You’re going to date people you shouldn’t; you’re going to have arguments that aren’t worth having; and you’re going to say the wrong things during these fights. It’s ok because you’re going to learn from each of these mistakes, and that will make your true love that much sweeter。

　　5. It’s ok to fall in love

　　4. You’ll fall in love with the wrong person

　　So you’ve met the wrong person, and maybe you kind of even know they’re wrong for you, but you can’t help it — you’re falling in love. That’s ok! It’s good to let yourself feel things for others. If you’re too hesitant to fall in love, then you might never let loose enough to find your special someone. Love is a beautiful feeling, and it’s never wrong to feel it for someone as long as you believe it’s true。

　　你会犯错

　　8. Don’t put others before yourself

　　这是最难学会的一课，因为在恋爱的开始，人们看起来都没什么问题。当你感觉到火花时，你无法想象这个人可能并不适合你。但他们真的可能是错的人，而你需要学会如何辨别。

　　2. You can be selfish

　　Instead of trying to prevent lots of missteps, read these tips and find out what you should know about love when you’re still young. Find comfort in knowing that everyone goes through these things, and we all make it out on the other side。

　　年轻的时候犯错是可以接受的，尤其是在爱情里。爱情不是理智的，好的时候它会让你体会最大的快乐，糟糕的时候则会让你感受最大的伤痛。

　　而事实是，这些时间表基本没用。目标你必须结 婚，会怎样？丢掉你脑中的所有时间表。不论你有没有计划，生活都会照常进行。所以等着瞧，看你会遇见谁，爱上谁，顺其自然。

　　This is the hardest lesson to learn, because people rarely seem wrong for you at the start of a relationship. When you feel the sparks and the butterflies, you can’t imagine that someone could be bad for you. But they can be, and they will be, and you need to learn how to identify this in others